This was my first viewer Q+A on the Inbox2Romance YouTube Channel. It came from a viewer from Canada who was painfully shy. He needed advice on how to talk to people, and how to feel confident to communicate with people other than his brother.
The first problem with what he wrote to me was that he had the limiting belief that girls don’t like shy guys. That’s simply not true. There are many examples of understated leading men in hollywood, for example. You don’t need to be the “Crazy
life of the party” to get girls. But at the same time, you don’t want to be the quiet recluse in the corner, either. Confidence is what makes all of the difference.
For a shy guy, it can feel very difficult to interact. I was very shy growing up. What makes the biggest changes is having goals, and getting out there with some hobbies and new interactions. If you are stuck in the same routine, you won’t grow. That’s why I suggested to this particular reader to go after his hobbies and interests, and to excersize as well, so that he can released the endorphins that naturally calm your body, and just make you feel good.
I also told him about breathing tips (click to watch a video about that), and how important it is to breath to regulate your body. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll stop feeling “frozen” and without any ideas for banter/conversation.
Watch the video and let me know what you think. Don’t forget to SUBSCRIBE to the YouTube channel, and ask me some questions of your own!