When you’re out on your first date (and this can apply to men or women), you may have periods where you feel like you’re running out of things to say, or you’re fearing the dreadful ‘awkward silence.’ You don’t have to be if you prepare yourself for the date.
A good way to prepare is to read the newspaper or news sites online. You can even text yourself some topics or write it on a little note that you can refer to later on the date.
Also, it’s a good idea to go somewhere on a first date that will lend itself to conversation. Think about places where there will be lots of people around that you can comment on, music that you hear that you can comment on, and things of that nature. Walking around a busy street can potentially give you lots of ideas.
The best tip though, is to learn to relax. When you’re breathing deeply and not in a shallow fashion, it allows oxygen to reach your brain, which will in turn make it easier for you to think of what you feel like talking about.
You should keep in mind what Dale Carnegie once said, which was something along the lines of being interesting and interested in others. If you’re interested in
your date, you will effortlessly seem like an interesting person. People love talking about themselves. Use that to your advantage, but don’t overdo it and come across like you’re on the 21 questions game show. You want to also offer up stories about yourself when appropriate. Think of it as a balance of talking and listening.
Some interesting ideas for conversation, which may be unique conversation topics are:
- What was your favorite children’s book?
- Where would you go if you could travel anywhere?
- What’s your favorite form of exercise?
- What’s the most memorable class you’ve ever taken?
- If you could have a super power, what would it be?
- Do you speak any languages?
- What’s something you want/need/deserve?
- What scares you?
- What makes you feel happy?
- What makes you feel sexy?
- What was the happiest moment in your life?
- How would your friends describe you?
- Lastly – Always consider the WHO, WHAT, WHERE, WHEN, WHY, and HOW of everything that you’re talking about with her. If she mentions a story that’s important to her, you can easily riff on it for a while by exploring the 5W’s of a question. For example, let’s say you ask her what her favorite form of exercise is. She replies with “soccer.” WHO does she play with? WHO got her interested in soccer? WHAT team is her favorite? WHERE does she play on the field? WHEN did she start playing? WHY is soccer her favorite? HOW good is she at soccer?